Finding the right lube when you want to conceive a baby
There are lots of great things about trying to conceive a baby. You love your partner, and you get to have sex, preferably quite a lot! So far, so good… but if things don’t magically occur the way you planned, it can become stressful, and take a toll physically and emotionally.
Sex lube can actually help you conceive a baby
Of course, it won’t make you more fertile, but sex lube can definitely make sex easier and more fun! With all the pressure and determination to make a baby, you may feel worried and have trouble becoming aroused. You might even be a bit physically uncomfortable from your dedication to regular intercourse!
Couples planning to get pregnant often have sex every second day, especially during their most fertile stage of the month, and there isn’t always time for generous foreplay… or it may be hard to get in the mood when something you want so badly isn’t happening. Female arousal normally takes around 20 minutes, until a woman’s natural lubrication is in full flow and her body is deeply in the swing of things, making sex both more enjoyable and more comfortable.
Not only that, if you have been trying hard to get pregnant and are on fertility drugs, some of these can interfere with natural lubrication, and some causes of infertility can also mean a woman has less natural cervical mucus.
You’re not alone! This study found of the 900 couples surveyed said that vaginal dryness negatively affected intimacy while trying to conceive – and almost 80% said that dryness issues were more frequent than usual.
Enter personal lubricant…. simple, right?
Not so simple! The type of sex lubricant you use can make a difference to how successful you are at getting pregnant. Sex lube was developed to make sex easier – simply by providing slide-ability. Original lubricants often contained a spermicide!
These days, sex lube will often contain petroleum, glycerin, propylene glycol, parabens, silicone, and Nonoxynol-9 (sometimes abbreviated as N-9), which can all affect sperm motility (ie. swim-ability, aka get-to-the-egg-ability). They can even make the sperm less viable, so that even if they do get to the egg, conception doesn’t occur.
Using the right personal lubricant can be a key to conception
If you want to get pregnant, it is best to avoid lubricants that contain these ingredients. Look for a glycerin-free, chemical free lubricant… like Rumer’s water based organic personal lubricant.
Of course, sperm friendly lubricants won’t guarantee pregnancy, but when you’re trying to conceive it’s nice to know that you aren’t slicking on a layer of sperm hating chemicals!
Most importantly
If you are trying to conceive, make time for love, and for each other! Create relaxed times to make love with less agenda and take care of each other.
We wish you all the best in your endeavors – enjoy, and good luck x
